What happens when a narcissist gets discarded?
This cycle confirms the narcissist’s distorted sense of being superior to their victims. If the victim ‘discards’ the narcissist first, he or she upsets the power dynamic that bolsters the abuser’s desire for power and validation.
What to do after being discarded by a narcissist?
Heres some advice on how to recover from a discard:
- Allow yourself to grieve. Go in to your feelings; dont try to avoid them.
- Challenge your negative beliefs.
- Put the responsibility back on the other person.
- Learn the life lessons.
- Move forward with your life.
What happens during the discard phase?
Inevitably, the discarding occurs when the person with narcissism either disappears or orchestrates his or her own abandonment by engaging in some form of egregious emotional abuse.
Why are narcissists so mean during discard?
The narcissist lacks empathy, which prevents them from understanding how their words affect others. They cannot put themselves in someone else’s position and understand that they can be brutal and mean. For this reason, the discard is often sudden, unexpected, and brutal.
What happens when you ignore the narcissist after the discard?
They will lash out – narcissists thrive on using others as a source to make them feel important. If you ignore them and deny them of their source, they may become enraged. They will essentially have a tantrum and throw insults and threats at you.
Why a narcissist won’t let go?
Narcissists hate losing their supply of attention, so they won’t let you go easily. Prepare for them to promise “to change.” They might suddenly start doing things for you that you’d been complaining about. They may say “you’ll be lost without me,” or “you’ll never find someone like me.”
What is discard in psychology?
To discard means to get rid of something that is no longer useful or desirable to you. This is exactly what the narcissist does to people in their life when they no longer feel that person adds value to them. If you have ever been discarded, it can feel personal.
Why do narcissists discard you?
The discard phase It might be because they’ve bled them dry of funds, or they’ve simply found someone new to abuse. Either way, at this stage their insults will reach the worst level, and they’ll find more ways to tear their partner down, ensuring they leave the relationship as the “winner.”
Is it possible to leave a narcissist before they discard you?
We talk a lot about leaving the narcissist before they can discard you, and this should be done if at all possible. Sometimes it isn’t possible though, and discarded partners are often left devastated, both financially and emotionally. Why Do Narcissists Discard People?
Should you be fooled by a narcissist’s appearance?
But, don’t be fooled by appearances. The narcissist may be convincing, insisting that their new partner is all that you could never be, but the truth is, all the narcissist wants is someone who will fall for their fake charm while gaining a new (or recycled) admirer.
Does the narcissist hold grudges?
The narcissist is an injustice collector: the narcissist holds grudges, and sometimes, he does this silently. Until you’re divorcing a narcissist, you may not even know anything was wrong or that she kept score of every small slight.
What is the final stage of a narcissist discard phase?
Narcissist Discard Phase: Revenge or Peace? Tonight, I’m going to talk about the final stage of a narcissist. The final stage is when they discard you and they get rid of you. And so tonight I was looking and trying to really understand why everyone’s story of the discard is so strong and so full of horror and shock.