What is ask vs guess culture?
Ask culture is centered around the idea that asking for anything is socially acceptable and encouraged—even if the answer might be no. Guess culture on the other hand believes that there is harm in asking…if you’re asking at the wrong time.
What is a Guess culture?
In Guess Culture, you avoid putting a request into words unless you’re pretty sure the answer will be yes. Guess Culture depends on a tight net of shared expectations. A key skill is putting out delicate feelers. If you do this with enough subtlety, you won’t even have to make the request directly; you’ll get an offer.
Is any Askers rude?
A Guesser may consider Askers to be rude because they have put the Guesser in an awkward situation of having to come up with excuses to not fulfill the request or being forced to set a boundary with a simple no.
Who are askers?
Askers are comfortable requesting anything from getting a raise from the boss to borrowing a friend’s car for a week, and they aren’t offended or ashamed when their requests are denied. Likewise, they don’t mind being asked for things and are comfortable giving “yes” or “no” for an answer.
What is a guesser?
Definitions of guesser. a person who guesses. type of: individual, mortal, person, somebody, someone, soul. a human being.
Is asking and telling the same thing?
You might argue that ask is more polite as asking for something is the same as requesting it, whereas telling someone to do something is the same as instructing or ordering them, but in this example either is appropriate.
How do I become an asker?
Askers make requests of others, knowing full well that they will get a “no”. They will ask anything – a raise, a bite of your sandwich – from anyone, regardless of how well they know you. They are completely open to being rebuffed, and their life philosophy boils down to “nothing ventured, nothing gained”.
What does it mean when someone says any Askers?
asker – someone who asks a question. enquirer, inquirer, querier, questioner. cross-examiner, cross-questioner – someone who questions a witness carefully (especially about testimony given earlier)
What do you call someone who guesses?
guesser – a person who guesses.
Who is a guess person?
A person who guesses; especially someone who can make a reasonable prediction from little evidence.
What is the difference between said and asked?
As verbs the difference between ask and say is that ask is to request (information, or an answer to a question) while say is to pronounce or say can be to try; to assay.
Why is asking better than telling?
Asking is Better Than Telling provides a neurological look into why questions work the way that do, powerful questioning structures that can elicit a change in thinking, and a question sequence framework to guide your questioning process.
What’s the difference between ask culture and guess culture?
There’s a concept (inspired by a Metafilter blog post) of ask culture vs. guess culture. In “ask culture,” it’s socially acceptable to ask for a favor — staying over at a friend’s house, requesting a raise or a letter of recommendation — and equally acceptable to refuse a favor.
What is Asker asking?
Asking is how you actually determine what the Asker wants and the giver is willing to receive. Guessing culture is a recipe for frustration. What’s more, Guessers, who are usually trying to be nice and are holding themselves to a higher level of politeness, ruin things for the rest of us
Did Andrea Donderi respond to Ask MetaFilter?
On January 16, 2007, Andrea Donderi responded to an Ask MetaFilter post that dealt with a houseguest-related situation like the one described above. Donderi’s take on the situation is as elegant as it is provocative.