How to initiate a difficult conversation?
Acknowledge the fact that you need to have a hard conversation.
Clarify your expectations. Be clear with yourself about what your experience should be—and the intention should not be to get your point across or declare who is right.
Invite the other person to have a conversation with you. “Say,’There are some things going on I want to share with you.
Set the ground rules—especially if you think there’s potential for upset. “Say,’I want to share something with you.
You have to be willing to listen. One of the biggest mistakes Iyanla says you can make is rehearsing the conversation in your head before and bringing preconceptions with
Be willing to be wrong. “Be willing to be wrong about what you thought they would say,what you thought they would do,how you thought they would respond,…
Agree on the next step. “At the end of the conversation,be sure you have the next steps for how you’re going to behave,what the expectation is,what
How to have crucial and difficult conversations?
Prepare. When you decide to approach a family member about a difficult subject,prepare ahead of time to ensure a positive outcome.
Expect a positive outcome. When preparing for a difficult conversation,adopt a positive mentality.
Set a time and place.
Set a time limit.
Set some ground rules.
Bring up the issue.
When someone is speaking,listen.
How do I have that ‘challenging’ conversation?
Prepare for a difficult conversation by walking through the “3 conversations” ahead of time.
Check your purposes and decide whether to raise the issue. Make sure you really need to raise the issue at all.
Start from the “third story.” If you do decide to raise a difficult issue,don’t lead in with your view or story.
Explore their story and yours.
How to handle difficult conversations with your partner?
9 tips for having difficult conversations with your partner Give up the need to be right. Even before you ask to sit down for a talk, remind yourself that it’s all about finding a solution to a problem. Choose the right time to talk. Nobody likes being buttonholed right when they walk in the door from work or when they’re in a rush. Start the conversation positively. Stay focused on the problem at hand.
