Is your mother holding you back from becoming independent?
While some moms try to help out of genuine care, it’s a habit that can hold you back from becoming independent. Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her.
Why does my mom always try to help me?
While some moms try to help out of genuine care, it’s a habit that can hold you back from becoming independent. Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her. It might be because she wants to be in control or because she’s having a tough time letting go of the role of caretaker.
Why does my mom always have to apologize to me first?
And that’s why, even though you didn’t do anything wrong, you’re always the one who has to reach out first and apologize. Your mom could also be playing the victim, which is another sign of toxicity.
Why does my mom act like I am dependent on her?
Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her. It might be because she wants to be in control or because she’s having a tough time letting go of the role of caretaker. Either way, let her know that you appreciate the help but that she has to respect your boundaries. Does your mom brush off your problems?
Do ‘Cool Moms’ turn against their kids?
And while it’s obviously nice to have a loving mother who can also be a friend, it can easily go too far. As author and stress management expert Debbie Mandel tells Bustle, “cool moms” tend to turn against their children the way a toxic friend might turn against you: by creating competition and doing whatever she can to erode your confidence.
What should you do when your mother says bad things about you?
As therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle, “A mother’s role is to provide unconditional love, safety, and support,” so it’ll feel really bad when she uses harsh words or brings up a sore subject. The best thing you can do, in these moments, is to take good care of yourself.